The Effect on Parents
“… domestic violence and abuse is: any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are, or have been, intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality. The abuse can encompass, but is not limited to: psychological, physical, sexual, financial, emotional.” Home Office
The effect of Parental Alienation can be terminal.
According to the Department for Work and Pensions (DWP), ‘non-resident’ parents are almost three times as likely to die early than the parent with care. 94.8 per cent of ‘non-resident’ parents are fathers.
Of all the suicides in 2013, most were men aged between 45 and 59.
Many alienated parents turn to anti-depressants, alcohol or illegal drugs in a desperate attempt to cope with the abuse and trauma of Parental Alienation.
Alienated parents report pressures such as:
- emotional distress of being unable to protect their child from abuse
- emotional distress from suffering domestic abuse themselves
- the frustration of having teams of professionals working against you
- crushing financial pressures, e.g. child support, legal costs, mortgage, rent, etc.
- being caught in a vicious circle, eg. having to work to provide for your children, thereby being unavailable to spend time with them
- loss of family home, friends, and possibly reputation
- intolerable strain on new relationships
- being caught in a downward spiral, i.e. depression leading to inability to work, side-effects of anti-depressants, the physical/emotional drain of prolonged litigation
Over time, this sustained pressure can force alienated parents over the edge, effectively ending the battle. Incidents of suicide, abduction, violence and even murder (including murder of the children) have been linked to Parental Alienation.